Sunday, 22 July 2012

[Fiction] The Orange Tree

The sound of the post slipping through the letterbox and gently thumping the carpet was the same as it was on other days, but this day contained something I could have done without. A letter from the local authorities telling me that one of the properties I owned was lacking in essential maintenance records for 10 years. If I did not show it was fit to live in within a month, it would be demolished. A glance at the address in question made me groan inwardly - the place was none other than the one I hoped it wouldn't be. It was the house my grandparents left me 10 years ago, and I had indeed not stepped inside for 10 years. With no real choice in the matter now, I decided I would stop by the old place after work that day.

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My grandmother was the first to go, and my grandfather followed her a few months later. So close in life, that even in death they couldn't stand being apart from each other for very long. Or so the people said, to somehow comfort themselves. I planted a red rose at her feet, and a white rose at his feet. A few years later, the vines had intertwined and formed one great bush, which in bloom was a sight to behold. Emptying the house and executing the will fell to me, and I did all that was requested. I did not expect the house to be given to me, but it was. However, whilst I couldn't bear to sell it, I felt uneasy in the house knowing that the two people I associated with it most were never going to come back again. I ignored it, put it to the back of my mind, and carried on with my life. A voice I rarely heard told me to go and visit it a few times. It told me that the solution to my restless heart lay in that house, but I refused to listen. The voice became softer everytime I ignored it, and within a few weeks, I heard it no more. Now fate was forcing me to visit.

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It was not as bad as I expected, or so I thought when gazing at it from the outside. The lawn was probably more accurately described as a mini-jungle, but 10 years of disregard would do that to any lawn. The inset square stones were still present, albeit cracked, with weeds growing out of them, but I was still able to walk right up to the door, as I used to all those years ago. When I was a child, it was a game for me to skip all the way from garden gate to door on the inset squares. Today, I would only walk on them. Up close, the paint on the house and on the door was in the final stages of flaking. Weeds and vines had completely claimed the whole of one side of the house, all the way up to the second storey. The key just about fit into the lock, and only turned after a struggle. It was clear from the thick layer of dust that I needn't have locked the door all those years ago - I was still the last person to have visited. As I reached into my pocket for a torch and stepped in, I wondered if I should have brought her with me.

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Would she have come, though? Was it still repairable? I had no idea. Whatever spark we had at the beginning seemed to be genuine, but as the years went past it faded, and now we lived together, more out of routine than actually wanting to. We didn't hate each other (not yet, anyway), but we had become somewhat indifferent. Somewhere along the line we accepted this, and whilst we wanted a return to better days, neither of us were willing to put the effort in.

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I walked gingerly around the house. I tested the electricity and the water, but I did not expect either to be working. I was right. I still felt odd around the house, but was a lot more at ease then when I was last here all those years ago. Maybe I had over-reacted in trying to forget about the place. I glimpsed the garden that was once my grandfather's pride and joy through the kitchen window, and it took some time before I realised that that was what I was looking at. And here my conscience stung me. He had made that small patch into a miniature heaven on earth, filling it with beauty, and harmony, and serenity. And I had let all that drift away because I didn't want to be reminded of losing him. Maybe I hadn't over-reacted in trying to forget the place. However, try as I might, I was not able forget, or stop myself from remembering the most powerful, inspirational conversation I had ever had in my life.

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I remember being asked by my grandfather if he wanted me to check the garden with him. I looked up from my phone screen, and politely declined. I used to love being in the garden when I was a child. That was before I discovered screens. First there was the TV screen that kept me occupied and silent, and taught me things that maybe my parents in retrospect wish that I never learned. Then I graduated to a computer screen, where I learned to get addicted to the feeling of always being connected, which set me up nicely for when I moved up a level, and ended up with the small screen of a smartphone as an extension of self. When I did decline his offer, I was sure he felt some pang of sadness, but he did not show it. He left me to my device, and went to take care of his. If it wasn't for my grandmother, who took me aside and gently told me that I was missing out on quality time with my grandfather, and that the chance may never come again to spend such with him, I would not have decided to go see my grandfather in the garden. That my grandmother confiscated my phone until I saw him also helped my decision.

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I gasped when I stepped out into the garden. My grandfather was a true artist, and his canvas was green. I watched him at work without announcing myself, and saw the loving tenderness with which he did every job that needed to be done, and how they all fit into some master plan. In the corner was a budding orange tree, which would be ripe within a few weeks. I saw him cut out all the buds, and leave them in the grass near the roots, and couldn't contain my curiosity. I asked him why he just did that, when he could easily have had delicious fruit in a few weeks, and he responded with one word. "Patience". He explained that whilst he could easily have enjoyed the fruit this year, the tree still needed to grow, and that when it was fully established, then the fruit would be exceptionally tasty. But we had to let go of sweetness sometimes in the present, to enjoy it multiplied in the future. I was stunned. I asked him where his insight came from.

"We humans always want the lazy way out. We always want instant gratification. We somehow know - we always know - that the best things in life are what we have to work hard and put the time in for, but we still dream of laziness. This is why all the get-rich-quick schemes exist, and also why they fail. This garden is my own reminder to myself that such don't pay, and they never will. And never is that more true in relationships. You can never build a strong bond without patience, love, trust, tolerance, sacrifice, and time."

And how did he end up learning that? "Your grandmother. She said nearly exactly the same words to me when we were going through a rough patch between ourselves, and I was just getting stared with gardening and impatient at my lack of progress. Only she could tie the two together with enough skill to make it seem obvious to anyone. She's sharper and wiser than anyone will ever give her credit for."

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With that memory replaying itself over and over in my head, I stepped into the garden. If you looked hard enough, you could see where the patterns in the garden used to be by how the wild plants were growing. What was not mistakable was the massive orange tree that dominated its area, though even here it was surrounded by weedlings. Dangling from its branches were the fruits of unpicked harvest. Orange after orange, a few dozen, most ripe, all hung from a crisscrossed mesh of brown and green. I knew then what I had to do. I knew why my soul had been nagging me to visit here. it's not very often that you find the solution to your present problems in your very own past, but there you go. Maybe I never really learned it the first time it was explained to me.

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There was a shed in the garden, and the key was in the keyring with the house keys, which were with me. I opened the musty door, not without force, and groped about till i found what I was looking for. A watering can. I struggled to find water, because the company had cut off the supply years ago, when suddenly I recalled an old rain tank built on top of the shed. It hadn't rained in a while, but I was still hoping that there was enough residue to fill the watering can at least once. There was enough to fill it up to three quarters, and that, I guess would have to do.

I watered the orange tree. Nobody had watered or trimmed the tree for years, so enough of the fruit was dangling low enough for me to reach out and pick them without even stretching, and I did. It was a weird feeling to be the one picking fruit and watering the plant, and sensing some sort of link to the last person to have done so. I bit into the orange and felt like I must have tasted some otherworldly fruit. It was perfect. I muttered both a thank you and a prayer under my breath for both of my grandparents.

When I was done, I picked up the phone, and asked her to meet me where I was. I was kinda surprised when she agreed so readily, but I think I sounded different, more confident, more sure of myself, and maybe that piqued her interest. I would have 30 minutes alone before she came. I spent them all sitting in the shade of the orange tree.

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"Aren't these oranges heavenly?"
"Perfect. Now, what did you invite me here for? Just to sit under an orange tree?"
"Not exactly. Did I ever tell you about my grandparents?"
"You only ever mentioned them in passing"
"Well, I have a lot to tell you"
"I have time."
"Well, both my grandfather and grandmother were very astute people. And from them I think I've finally learned something about relationships."
"It's about time. Do tell"
"Believe it or not, it's linked to this very orange tree. More than 10 years ago, I…"

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[END]

Saturday, 21 July 2012

Panem et Circenses


In His Name, the Most High

Literally, from the Latin, meaning: "Bread and Circuses".

Basically, a policy used by the politicians of Rome, during its heyday, and leading to its decline. The politicians placated the masses by making sure they were well fed, and well entertained. They were selected, elected, not on who would be the best public servant, but on who would provide the most entertainment, and make sure the bread never was in short supply.

Sound familiar? It should. We here in the West are headed that way, if we are not already there, and the rest of the world does not get so lucky.

From the food point of view, there is this incredible delivery network and infrastructure that means that food is readily, readily available to all of the population. And it's cheap too…relatively speaking. I read somewhere (I think, Affluenza by Oliver James) that this generation, and the one just before, has, proportionally speaking, spent less of its income on food than any other generation in the whole of history. This means that, whilst a massive number of people in the world starve themselves to sleep, we have it on tap. Food supermarkets leverage massive economies of scale to make it cheap for us, and buy and stock so much that it just cheapen it, lessens its value in our life.

And entertainment? Do I even need to ask this question? Every house has a TV set. Cinema is big business, with blockbusters grossing hundreds of millions of dollars, and streaming/ on-demand in the early stages of taking off in a big, big way. Sports are big business, with stadiums seating tens of thousands of people at a go, watching the modern equivalent of gladiatorial battles, which are also televised across the globe. Music sells by the truckload, and malls are pretty much thronged with people (maybe not as much as before, but still).

All distraction. And when people live lives of ease, and all this is placed within easy reach, few really think about it. It becomes a sort of default. People will take the path of least resistance, and it flows into other aspects of their life. And the politicians will learn, and begin to expect that the electorate doesn't really care for their fellow human beings, and that they can get away with a lot more than they think possible, as long as they keep the domestic affairs running smoothly.

Gah. There has to be a better way

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Of all the things that could spark such thoughts, The Hunger Games series is probably among the most unlikely. Nevertheless, this is true. This is the point where I recommend them, and yes, indeed, read them.

Sunday, 15 July 2012

Sunday Mornings.

In His Name, the Most High

I love Sunday mornings. This is my absolute favourite time of the week.

I mentioned before that the local mosque has a lovely, lively fajr programme on Sundays. This will be discontinued as their month of Ramadhan programme takes over (and I accept that the programme will be better. Of course it will be), but I will miss it nonetheless.

There's a handful of us. Sometimes, we have a little bit more than one handful, but less than two. We pray Fajr in congregation, then follows a short tafseer of the Quran. Then we have chai, and biscuits, and sit with each other for about an hour, sometimes two, in conversation. There is no defined structure, its just ideas and stuff sparking of thoughts and ideas from others.

I don't speak much, but I do listen a lot. There's a generation gap between myself and the others that attend. I am the youngest attendee, and it just feels in so many ways that I'm looking at the future. My future. A possible future, if I work hard at it. Not in terms of like where I'll be or what I will be doing, but in like the challenges that will come ahead, and how I should deal with them, if/when they do come. For they will come, that's for sure.

It's lovely, and makes me smile just thinking about it. This is something that especially I am grateful for, and I make the most of it and attend every session because I honestly don't know how long I'll have it for. Alhamdulillah for being a neighbour to the mosque. I have no idea where I will be in the future, but I will try my utmost to work it so that I can always be close to a mosque.

inshaAllah.

I

Saturday, 14 July 2012

On Wasted Days and Limiting Beliefs


In His Name, the Most High

Are you a morning person or an evening person? The proper answer is…does it matter? (I'm a morning person, just for reference).

I have previously used my tendency as an excuse for excusing away wasted days. My belief was that I needed to rise with the larks and be productive during the early hours of the morning if the rest of the day was to be a success. If I failed in those crucial hours, then I was pretty much guaranteed to lose the day. And it makes sense, kinda. Victory begets victory. And really, there are few things like a streak of "small wins" in the early morning to set a positive tone for the rest of the day.

Which is all very well when it works, and you're able to consistently get up early and have productive days. It is, however, also extremely defeatist should you _not_ manage to get up early and put together a streak of small wins. Such a mindset allows you to then not really try for the rest of the day, which, in some way, is lying to yourself, and denying your own potential for growth.

I came to this realisation through a most unusual way (for me). Over the past 3 months, my sleeping habits have been completely destroyed. There is literally no regularity in them (which doesn't bug me per se. I'm speaking from a purely observational point of view here). There are days when I sleep early wake up early. And there are nights when I stay up till fajr, and then sleep, and wake up later in the day (I never imagined I'd be among the latter class, but in the grand scheme of things its just another reminder that I really should never say never).

On the days that I would wake up late, I would struggle to get anything done. And after a few days - it hit me. I was subscribing to a limiting belief. We have all these beliefs in our head that we don't examine and try and figure out where they came from. When you do examine them, perhaps you can tell where it came from, or what planted it, or what thought process led it to be accepted by your brain. Or you can look at it and acknowledge that the idea is wrong, and should be replaced by other, better ones.

Observe the evolution:

- I'm a morning person.

- I'm a morning person, and having a few small wins early on in the day really helps me have productive days

- I'm a morning person, and having a few small wins early on in the day really helps me have productive days. However, I lose the rest of the day if I don't achieve this.

The first statement is explicit. However, implicit in that first statement are the two that follow, only we don't know that we unconsciously accept the (limiting) implications as well, and they affect us.

Compare:

- I'm a morning person.

- I'm a morning person, and having a few small wins early on in the day really helps me have productive days

- I'm a morning person, and having a few small wins early on in the day really helps me have productive days. However, should I fail to do such, I can still be reasonably productive for the rest of the day.

- I'm a morning person, and having a few small wins early on in the day really helps me have productive days. However, should I fail to do such, I can still be reasonably productive for the rest of the day, and maybe even surprise myself.

First statement is explicit. Second is implicit, like above. Third and fourth are explicit again, because I've thought it through and decided to plant it in my head. And really, why not? Every day is a blessing that needs to be acknowledged and appreciated, and hiding behind some silly morning/evening person excuse isn't really going to do me any good.

And there we go. The main point of what I was trying to say (my apologies for taking so long). Every second, every breath is yet another opportunity to do seize, to use, to make something with, for we never really know how long we are given. A wasted day here and there may not feel like much, but cumulatively, the cost is too great to ignore.

Go do something. You already know what you have to do. Go do it.

Now.

I.

PS: I am not saying we should work ourselves to the bone. Rest is important too. I will cover that later as well. iA.

Tuesday, 10 July 2012

Three, and Three, and Three More


In His Name, The Most High

In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful;
[103:1] I swear by the Time,
[103:2] Most surely man is in loss
[103:3] Except those who believe and do good, and enjoin on each other truth, and enjoin on each other patience.


In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful;
[108:1] To thee have We granted the Fount (of Abundance).
[108:2] Therefore to thy Lord turn in Prayer and Sacrifice
[108:3] For he who hateth thee, he will be cut off (from Future Hope).


In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful;
[110:1] When there comes the help of Allah and the victory,
[110:2] And you see men entering the religion of Allah in companies,
[110:3] Then celebrate the praise of your Lord, and ask His forgiveness; surely He is oft-returning (to mercy).

Monday, 9 July 2012

Sweden, April-May 2012, Pictures


In His name, the Most High












Sunday, 8 July 2012

Its funny….

… how things work out.

Before I forget: In His Name, the Most High

I quit my job on the Friday 13th (unlucky for some, lucky for me) of April. It was a nice, comfortable  job, to be sure, but someway along the way, a whole number of different factors came together at exactly the right time, and I just knew it was time to leave that job and head off into the unknown. So I did.

A whirlwind week later, I found myself in Sweden for the first time in 11 years. Now Sweden I intend to cover in a blog post on it's own, but it definitely would not have happened had I not quit my job. Moreover, I only intended to go visit for 4 days, but I ended up staying for a month. Again -  a somewhat perfect confluence of circumstances. I had no job to go back to, so could stay as long as I wanted in Sweden.

4 weeks was enough, and I came back a different person. Alhamdulillah. It was needed, and I am so, so grateful for that. I look back on it and wonder how everything fell into place, and how I never would have been able to put the pieces together myself like that. Alhamdulillah x 100.

Anyway. Now I'm back, I have been for a while. Other things are happening in my life that I am grateful for. I now live 3 mins walk away from my local mosque. It's something I never had in Norfolk,  and I make full use of it as much as possible; including a lovely, lovely Sunday morning fajr programme. My address book is slowly, slowly picking up the details of khojas (the two things are somewhat related). I finally went to a wedding and broke my 13-year no-wedding streak. My grandparents live on the same road as the mosque, and now I have nearly daily contact with them. My kutchi and gujarati comprehension and speaking has improved exponentially (again, the two things are somewhat related).

For now, Alhamdulillah. I am at peace, more than I have been for a long, long time. Alhamdulillah for times like these, for I must remember Allah in the good times, if I want him to remember me in the tough times.

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Day by day. That is all. Life goes on. And yes, sometimes things do fall into place.

I

Revival

In His Name, the Most High

So, I'm blogging again. A full-ish update will come, iA. My mind is racing, is not at ease, but this is in a good way, as I skip (sometimes gracefully, sometimes not) from idea to idea, and back again, thinking and pondering about wayyy too many things. Eventually I remember to note one idea down for later, and from this I have a short-ish but growing list of stuff I will blog about. Soon. inshaAllah, if I am given the chance.

Nice to meet you all again.

Also, if you're sick of my writings (and even if you're not), please visit this blog:

http://peppermintprose.livejournal.com/

It's absolutely lovely. You can thank me later.

I

Thursday, 5 July 2012

The Father of Dust

Upon catching sight of that glorious dome
Which in every light seems to glisten
My heart immediately made a new home
And to it, I couldn't help but listen

Here is buried the master of free men
Paragon of virtue upon virtue in life
That earth hosts no loftier denizen
Equal composure in blessing and strife

Buried in secret, in the dead of the night
Now Najaf radiates a spiritual light
Drawing all those who salute his right
And keep alive remembrance of his life.

Feet finding the path of millions before
And I run before the opportunity goes
Finding my way without needing to see
The Father of Dust is calling to me

Ya Ali (as)

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I wish. This is my imagination only.

One day, iA